It’s Okay

 

I believe that this is extremely important for someone that struggles with an addiction to know. But you can’t confuse this with it being okay to keep abusing the thing or substance of your choice. When I say “it’s okay”, I mean that it’s okay that you are struggling. It’s okay because you are going to get through this. This is the “it’s okay” that comes after admitting that you are struggling with an addiction, which is a hard thing to do. Believe me, I know first hand.

 

The first time I opened up about my pornography addiction, I was terrified of the reaction that would follow. Click To Tweet I had been struggling with this addiction since I was 14 years old and I decided to tell someone only about 2 years ago. It’s hard to admit that you have an addiction or are struggling so much with something. It requires a lot of courage and vulnerability because you are about to share one of the deepest parts of yourself. After I had finished sharing, I remember my friend reaching out and taking my hand in hers and telling me, “it’s okay”. At that moment, that was the best thing I could hear, knowing that despite having this porn addiction, I was okay and it was going to be okay.

 

That’s what I want everyone who reads this to understand. No matter what substance, or thing that you might be addicted to, it’s okay. Things are going to be okay because this isn’t the end of your story. God is just getting started. Click To Tweet

 

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You are Worthy

 

I have always struggled knowing how truly worthy I am, but I have struggled more since recognizing my addiction. I have spent many times thinking that God was never going to use me because I couldn’t get my act together. Why would He want to use someone that could barely make it a week, let alone a month, without watching porn? It wasn’t until February of this year, did I realize that God was going to use me whether I was 8 months clean from porn or 3 weeks clean. I got the opportunity to share my testimony with some students at my church. I was so nervous because as I was getting up to speak, it had only been three weeks since I last watched porn. Now, I take that has a huge celebration, but at the time, I didn’t feel qualified at all to be speaking. I had just thrown eight months of hard work down the drain in January and I didn’t know how I was going to speak to those students. But the thing is, God had bigger plans. All year, those students only heard stories of people beating their struggles, not about someone still in the midst of them. Click To Tweet So, when I shared my story, that’s when I realized that God was using me despite everything that happened in that last month. That was a turning for me and in my walk with God. I finally understood that He was going to use me no matter what and that I am worthy of whatever He has planned for my life.

 

Hear me when I say that you are loved infinitely by the creator of the world.

 

I have spent the last two years of my life constantly trying to prove that I am worthy enough for what God has planned for me. And maybe that is you right now. You are trying to get your life together so God will use you. You stand by watching all of your friends experiencing these amazing opportunities and you wonder when it will be your turn. You figure that it’s because you struggle with an addiction, have mental health issues or whatever it may be that is taking control of your life. But here’s the kicker. Stop trying so hard to get right with God and start living in his grace and the endless love He has for you. Click To TweetYou don’t have to have it all together for God to use you for His glory. If that was the case, none of us would be worthy and never have the chance to reach our God-given potential. God is going to use you right where you are, and whatever season of life you are in. Stop trying to get everything under control just so He will use you. He is already using you and working things together for His good. You are worthy.

 

Let Jesus In

 

Knowing that it’s going to be okay and that you are worthy are important things to hold on to when you struggle with addiction. However, if you don’t let Jesus into your struggles and into your life, those first two points mean nothing. With Jesus, we have everything and more, but without Him, we are nothing. Click To TweetI went eight months without Him in my life, and that is why I failed in January. I was so miserable, despite being clean from porn. I was empty inside, and so focused on proving to everyone that I could kick this addiction. Come to realize, I couldn’t do it on my own. Through failing in January, I learned that Jesus is the only way I am going to get through this. You have to let Him and let Him take control, and I know that is hard. Giving up control of something that you’ve held onto forever is not easy. By letting Jesus in, you are letting Him make the promise to you that He’s got this. Change won’t happen overnight, and you might slip up more times than you’d like, but Jesus is standing next to you the whole time. From each slip-up, you learn to give up more control and you learn to trust Him more than you did prior. When we struggle with something as intense as an addiction, all we want is for someone to walk alongside us and never stop holding our hand, especially when we are walking through the fire. This is exactly what Jesus does. He comes alongside us, takes our hand, and walks through the fire with us. When you fall down, He picks you back up and say’s “it’s okay, you are still worthy. We are going to get through this together.”

 

By letting Jesus in, you are letting Him make the promise to you that He’s got this.

 

If you feel like there is no hope for you, and you are swallowed by your addiction, I am here to tell you that there is hope for you. I have been addicted to porn since I was 14, that’s almost seven years. I still struggle with it to this day. However, despite struggling, I know that I am loved more than I can even imagine and I am worthy of the life that is ahead of me. Hear me when I say that you are loved infinitely by the creator of the world. The one who calls you His own wants to walk through this with you, and He wants to fill you up with his goodness. You are going to get through this.

 

It’s okay, you are worthy, and Jesus is right there with you, ready to fight this battle.

 

 

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Jordan Bessler

Hi there! My name is Jordan and I am 20 years old. I am currently a college student at Iowa State University here in Iowa, majoring in Communication Studies. My goal is to work in student ministry after graduation. I absolutely love writing, and discovered how much I loved it my junior year of high school. Writing is that thing that ignites my soul. My goal is to use my writing to share about Jesus and glorify Him. And about the way he has worked in my life. Getting to spend everyday following Jesus and living the life he has called me to live is amazing. Having the opportunity to write about those things, and share them with others brings we a lot of joy. I am looking forward to sharing more, and reaching more people through this opportunity.
Jordan Bessler
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Hi there! My name is Jordan and I am 20 years old. I am currently a college student at Iowa State University here in Iowa, majoring in Communication Studies. My goal is to work in student ministry after graduation. I absolutely love writing, and discovered how much I loved it my junior year of high school. Writing is that thing that ignites my soul. My goal is to use my writing to share about Jesus and glorify Him. And about the way he has worked in my life. Getting to spend everyday following Jesus and living the life he has called me to live is amazing. Having the opportunity to write about those things, and share them with others brings we a lot of joy. I am looking forward to sharing more, and reaching more people through this opportunity.

One Comment

  1. terri romick June 6, 2019 at 2:34 pm · Reply

    I’m proud of you for being so vulnerable Jordan! You’re a great writer.

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