Perfectionism (noun) is defined as the refusal to accept any standard short of perfection. It’s also a generational curse that has been spread across a lot of families, including mine.

 

It’s something that, one day at a time, I am continually giving up to God. I’ve fully accepted this and that’s just to the start of my freedom from it.

 

Before coming into my previous season of surrender and sobriety, my life had been crazy. I had so many expectations I thought I could meet on my own, which was impossible. The insanity of my thought process is hard for me to fathom to this day. I was running an overly-ambitious yet ‘semi-successful food turned lifestyle blog’, tried to do it all, listened to flawed advice, etc.   And, for a long time, I had this vision that I’d become a food blogger turn entrepreneur, but God had other, better plans for me. I did it completely wrong but instead of starting a pity party for myself I’ve used it as a learning experience. Until I started my sobriety journey, it was hard and still is at times to accept help and acknowledge I can’t do things alone.

 

I was meditating this morning and thought of the ways I’ve been set free from the perfectionism bondage.

 

 “So if the Son sets you free, you will be free indeed.”

– John 8:36 

 

Admitting the truth and being honest with ourselves can set us free. In the recovery world, we use the word acceptance, which I think goes in hand with surrender.

 

Until we can admit and accept our own limits and set healthy boundaries, we will continue to strive. We’re going to be tired, stressed and overworked. I lived a long time stuck in the delusion that I could be like Supergirl and tackle so many things. When we openly admit our issues to Jesus because we can’t hold it any longer, He takes it and if we allow, can transform it.

 

Relevant Article: And You Will Find Rest for Your Soul…

 

That brings me to my next point, God’s grace.

 

One of my favorite slogans in the program I’m in is “Easy Does It.” Sometimes we need to slow down and recess ourselves. Click To Tweet God is awesome and I’m constantly in awe of His reverence and what He can do if we allow Him to reign as Lord as our lives. If I am weak in something and turn it over, His grace overflows in my life if I’m in His presence daily and even if I fall short.

 

“But he said to me, “My grace is sufficient for you, for my power is made perfect in weakness.” Therefore, I will boast all the more gladly about my weaknesses, so that Christ’s power may rest on me.”

– 2 Corinthians 12:9

 

God’s grace lets our souls and egos take a back seat and when we are in His power amazing things can happen. But it’s nothing I’ve earned by anything I’ve done except to accept Jesus as my Lord and Savior. But we need to be honest and repent. And accept the grace He so freely gives to us and that is something I don’t deserve but it’s a gift I will gladly receive.

 

My last point is simple and reiterates community and reaching out.

 

Something our pride and ego want to hold us back from especially if you lived and thought how I did. We can only make it so far on our own. IT IS OKAY TO ASK FOR HELP, REPEAT—IT IS OKAY TO ASK FOR HELP.  A huge part of my program is building a network of women or men (if you are male) to help you go through the process and stay accountable. Maybe that’s a business mentor in your case. I know having accountability has helped me stay the path because I would easily slip without it.

 

“Get all the advice and instruction you can, so you will be wise the rest of your life.”

-Proverbs 19:20 NLT  

 

Having a supportive community by your side makes thing easier for us to bear. It helps us not isolate or go deep into the Pity Party we can easily slip into. We know we are not alone and we all have gifts that help us support one another and encourage each other in love.

 

Living a Christ-centered life can be a challenge especially when we live in a world that prides self and self-sufficiency.

 

We can only make it so far on our own.

 

God gets all the glory in my life and has transformed my thinking and faith drastically and has set me free.  If you struggle with perfectionism and judge your success as the world offers it I challenge you, believer, or not to reevaluate. What could happen if you gave that load to the Lord?

 

My life is always much more peaceful (c’ mon Jesus is the Prince of Peace), stress-free, and I know I am a child of God.

 

 

 

 

 

 

Sara Gaona

I have a background in Public Relations, Social Media and Marketing from Fairleigh Dickinson University. My strengths include Social Media Marketing, Event Planning and Story Telling.

I have a passion for writing stories, recipes, and anything creative. Throughout my journey, I've also gained a passion for working with individuals in recovery. I am a forward thinker, am slow to act and have honed in great listening skills. I take on most projects with a plan and an open-minded. I am passionate about networking especially if we can work as a community to make the world a better place.
Sara Gaona
I have a background in Public Relations, Social Media and Marketing from Fairleigh Dickinson University. My strengths include Social Media Marketing, Event Planning and Story Telling. I have a passion for writing stories, recipes, and anything creative. Throughout my journey, I've also gained a passion for working with individuals in recovery. I am a forward thinker, am slow to act and have honed in great listening skills. I take on most projects with a plan and an open-minded. I am passionate about networking especially if we can work as a community to make the world a better place.

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